SHE GAVE THEM HER ALL

“Maybe it’s safer to stay right here. if it’s not true enough, Maybe it’s good enough” But good enough is where people drink too much and snark too much and become bitter and sick and live in quiet desperation until they lie on their deathbeds and wonder: what kind of life/ relationship /family/world might I have created if I’d been braver?

No, good enough is not enough.

He was right. After coming, going not to mention the words , so many unnecessary words. They just call and as no time has past and say “ I know who I can ask my mom” Mom! she is grateful and happy. She doesn’t dare to question or ask for an explanation she is just happy to hear her daughters voice.

Now they are up in arms. Now that if will show their lack of family support and their famous not my monkey not my circus. She has asked for the family to please help because everyone, anyone could see it coming. I call it a blessing in disguise

Now there will be accountability and watchful eyes to ensure the safety of the unborn, the ones who have no control over their lives but live in hell.

She’s not surprised, but thankful. Very saddened by her older daughters gossip. The daughters now want to put their two cents in. Children who know what is right and wrong and have contact with those who are suppose to love and care for them have no respect for those who have done nothing but watch them burn.

I am surprised by my reaction, no tears, but a sense of the children are seen, they do matter, they are not collateral damage.

She found it interesting when hearing a conversation when the speaker describes human actions or words of another and at that moment does not realize they too have the same characteristics. She truly enjoyed Christmas this year, it was a small window of a Christmas miracle. But those who were told to stand down did not allow the peace to continue. Words of hate and dislike kept rearing its ugly head about her future daughter-in-law. She was able to see things she needed to see. She has the need to be close to some family. Just far enough from the drama but close enough in case of an emergency. She misses Key West, the people, the culture, and the healing water. She has to disconnect from the rest of the family.

Almost 7 days of peace. Then BAM over a 5.00 ball. Some words I can not use to describe a few in my family are selfless and Integrity. She is leaving after the birth of her great-granddaughter.

She has been invited to move south with some of her family.

Her mother gave her a picture of her past life. Christmas Eve, she attended with her family. Unsure of how it would turn out due to the past few years of turmoil in the family. So much thought was put into the holiday that she has not attended. Much now makes sense, she did nothing but have a beautiful life, and happy, healthy children. It was a magical Christmas but unfortunately, this would not last. jealousy and insecurity are very ugly and dangerous attributes to have in a family. she was very happy that she attended. It was a nice refresher of the past to the present still longer as those who do not like happiness or you see anybody happy are just holding it and I cannot wait to leave so it was a magical day, her father gave the gift for her mother to give to their children.

Cheringway

She believes She has been lied to for 99 percent of her life. A little exaggerated, maybe. So she goes back in to check the temperature of the house. Then bam! There it was, the crazy she had almost talked herself into thinking it was her. But this time she gave no reaction, just a tilt of the head and smiled. So you invite her to these gatherings knowing she does not want to attend. So she plays along sure I’ll bring.… dish. She returns home to meet with her daughter who has been very condescending to her and everyone in the house. She can’t call it a home it’s just a house. She speaks a word and it’s on ( that’s passive-aggressive! ) from the daughter. No, I was just saying I would help you get the cat to the vet. So she refuses to engage. Do nothing she tells herself just do nothing ,say nothing.

Move to the left, it’s wrong! Move to the right its wrong! Move forward it’s wrong! Move backwords its wrong! Breath its wrong! Hold your breath its wrong! For every solution there are those who have a problem with it. Even if you follow their own request you still are doing it wrong.

A man once said it’s fun to watch.

With respect, I have to disagree there is something wrong. The next move will be nothing. Doing nothing is the hardest thing to do. DO NOTHING.

L’arte di non fare nulla

The art of doing nothing

C. Heringway 12/15/22

How we treat a person during the darkest moment of their lives is a benchmark of humanity.